According to Erik Erikson, between the age of 7 and 11, children gain a sense of Industry or Inferiority. During this stage children are more focused on friends, school and sports and tend to compare their own skills to those around them. This comparison has a huge impact on how they see themselves and their own abilities.
When a child consistently performs well on exams in school he/she feels accomplished and successful. If a child consistently performs below his/her peers or school requirement he/she feel inferior
During this age it is important to help children develop a sense of competence, self-worth, and accomplishment. Setting realistic goals that apply to each child's abilities is key. Some children are naturally good at school while others are naturally good at sports. Helping children set realistic goals to fit their level will help them develop a sense of industry.
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